Discrepancy

We all get friendships. A friend is someone who is there for you, you enjoy their company, spend time with, talk to, laugh with, trust, respect and love a certain way. We all have friends and some have what they consider "best friends". Some have a circle of close knit friends, while others have many friends that they do not truly know.

Relationships are also quite common to those young and old. In high school there are boyfriends and girlfriends, later in life, husbands and wives. There relationships are defined by a more physical and emotional commitment. You have the same trust, respect, enjoyment as a friend but there is something deeper in the way you feel towards that person. By saying you are their 'boyfriend' or 'girlfriend' you commit to that deeper part of the relationship with them and only them. The same goes for marriage, except that is life bonding. (Should be that is)

Now it seems like there is a basic fundamental line between being in a relationship and a friendship, but it seems there is such an in between state, but is it ok? Let us call it 'relationship x'. You do not quite have a relationship but you are definitely more special than just friends. There is commitment, but loose commitment. The commitment is there mostly because you cannot imagine hurting the other. Relationship x lacks the publicity of a real relationship, whether it be on purpose or by chance.

The way you love someone in this 'relationship x' will show which side of the problem you are coming from. If you love them the same way you love your best friend, you see the relationship as an EXTREMELY strong friendship, and generally fear it becoming anything more. If you love that person in a romantic unconditional way, then you see the relationship as a hopeful future commitment.

Now everything is fine and dandy if both parties see this special in-between relationship the same way. It is when there is a misunderstanding or discrepancy that problems arise. One friend falls for another and that is when all emotional turmoil is released. Feelings are hurt, hopes are crushed, worries constantly hinder the mind, fighting happens. Because of all of the results of discrepancy in relationship x, only the strong can survive there. Those who's relationship is strong enough and both parties involved are strong enough can last through this state of relational being. Those who are not strong enough allow one party to settle on one side of the fence or another, leaving someone and eventually both people unhappy.