When you are wronged, your instantaneous reaction is to be upset. That is completely human, you have every right to be upset. Someone wrongs you, you should be upset with them for some time. Eventually, you must find it in yourself to be forgiving, forget it, and move on. Knowing when it is time to do so is another story completely but the time does come. Getting over it seems like the best thing, it means the problem is over. The process, though, is much harder than being upset. Being upset is just how you feel and want to feel and if feels good to just let it all out and complain. Getting over something and moving on takes hard, mature work. You have to think about what happened, confront the problem, fix broken friendships, and mend hurt feelings. Here comes that good ole' 'Easier isn't always better' lesson. It'd be nice to just be upset until you run out of steam, but that is what children do. By being upset and letting someone who wronged you upset you is only making it a problem.
"He who angers you, conquers you" - Elizabeth Kenney. The right thing to do, and what will benefit you in the end is the hard thing to do: Move on.
Things that seem enormous now will be forgotten. All I remember from high school are the fun, crazy times. I know there was drama but I definitely don't remember the details.
ReplyDeleteFocus on what things that matter. You know what they are.
You're right, it may be hard to move on, but when you are wronged by a person who is your FRIEND, that's something that takes a while to "move on". It's easy for you to say, but if you were put in that person's shoes, you wouldn't be saying this. So my advice to you is to watch yourself and watch what you say to people because you're not affecting just one person, you are affecting everyone around you.
ReplyDeleteDear Anonymous, I actually was wronged by a friend and was talking about moving on myself and how I learned to move on even if it was harder than being upset about what happened to me. But thanks anyways.
ReplyDeleteI actually kind of wish I knew what you were talking about...
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