Why is it, for me at least, that the little things are what set me off. It seems like small insignificant details can change my mind, or little happenings can change my mood. One example is my hair... I can be having a great day, but if I get frustrated with my hair it can have a pretty big effect on my mood. I can be having a bad day, and I (USUALLY) just calmly try my best to deal with it, but when it comes to my hair, I have thrown tantrums like a 3-year-old and even cried out of frustration. I am actually a little embarrassed to admit that, but it just caught my attention. That is only one example, but it shows up in many areas.
I have a few theoretical explanations about this quirk. One of them, a bit more specific to myself, is my perfectionist side. I pay a lot of attention to details and want every part of something to be equally good, so little things might bother me a bit more than overall issues. Another possible explanation is that little things take us by surprise. This idea explains small things having negative effects on us, as well as positive. We expect the big things to happen, and we usually know what to expect in whether they are good or bad. We do not take the, sometimes subconscious, steps to prepare ourselves for the outcomes of little things in the way we do the big things. In a day where you have a performance, you are so focused on doing well on that one thing that having a bad hair day can set you off, or a simple compliment on your outfit can boost your day.
Maybe this effect small happenings and details have on us is why we are told to "Appreciate the little things".
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